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COMMON QUESTIONS

WHAT IS THE FIRST SESSION LIKE?

The first session isn't a normal counselling session, its more of a chat to get to know one another and to contract working together. The first session differs slightly depending on where or how we meet. You can email me at Kate@KMCcounselling.info with your preference for more specific information about the first session like and accessibility needs. 

 

During this session I will try to answer all your questions about counselling. I will explain how I work and the boundaries of our relationship.

If you have had counselling before then we might discuss what worked well  and what you would have liked to be different. 

 

We’ll talk a little about what it is you’re hoping to gain from coming to counselling and work together to identify how we might work towards that.

WHAT CAN I TALK ABOUT?

Anything and everything, but be mindful of the limitation to confidentiality. 

Counselling doesn't only have to be about one topic and often its not what you expect it to be. Sometimes something else will take your focus. Some weeks you may cry, some weeks you might need to swear and hit a pillow and some weeks you may celebrate. 

Counselling is all about our humanity and that can't be summed up under one heading. 

WILL I TELL ANYONE WHAT WE TALK ABOUT?

No.

As a member of the BACP I work under their ethical framework (if you'd like a copy of this please email me at: Kate@KMCcounselling.info). I receive regular supervision from a Senior Accredited BACP Supervisor, here I talk about my experience of the sessions and your anonymity is protected.

 

If I believe you or someone else is at risk. I may be obligated to break confidentiality. If this were to occur, I would make every effort to discuss this with you before acting. Ideally, we would break confidentiality together, usually the person we would talk to would be your GP. 

WILL I GIVE YOU ADVICE?

No, I believe you are the expert in your life and the way forward is entirely unique to you. I will help you figure out what is keeping you where you are, where you would like to get to and the right way for you to get there. We can explore what might be blocking your path and how to overcome those obstacles.

WHAT IF THE THING YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT IS EMBARRASSING OR SHAMEFUL?

It is not my job to judge you. I won’t push you to share anything you are not ready to talk about. You are in the driving seat and I’m in the passenger seat with the map. We’ll make this journey together.

 

Brené Brown a shame and vulnerability researcher says that shame can only exist in hiding. But if you're going to share it, you need to find someone and somewhere to do so safely.

If you feel embarrassed or ashamed, being able to safely share whatever it is can be incredibly liberating when you are ready.

WHAT IF I CAN’T HELP YOU?

Sometimes there  are ethical reasons that I might not be able to help, e.g. maybe your need requires specialist training. Maybe I'm not quite what you're looking for, in these instances I might refer you to alternative services or maybe other counsellor’s I know who may be more suitable to help.

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